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Child Custody Tips

There is no situation for which the saying “choose your battles wisely” is more appropriate than in the case of a child custody battle. Before you decide to engage in a conflict with your ex–spouse over the custody arrangements for your child, take these five tips into consideration.

1. Take The Battle Out Of It.

When two parents battle over a child, nobody wins. As a parent, it is your job to at all times be the adult in this situation and to protect your child from harm, not only physical harm, but emotional harm as well.  Make sure is is a discussion, not at argument.

2. Consider The Best Interests Of Your Child.

The biggest factor the court will consider in determining the custody arrangements for your child will be what arrangements are most in your child’s best interest.  Put him/her first at all times.

3. Things to Consider For an Initial Custody Determination.

If this will be the initial determination of the custody arrangements for your child after a divorce, then you have a stronger footing. Gone are the days when the courts would automatically award custody of children to the mother. Today, the court is going to be fair and take into consideration which parent can offer the best home environment for the children.

4. Things to Consider When Requesting a Change of Custody.

If this is a battle for change of custody, be aware that you have your work cut out for you. Courts are extremely reluctant to uproot a child from a familiar environment without a strong showing that to do so is in the best interests of the child. If the best you can do is show that you are as capable of providing a comfortable home for your child as your former spouse, then it is very unlikely the court will order a change of custody. The court's main interest is in providing the child with stability and continuity.
To obtain a change of custody, you are going to have to demonstrate a strong basis for the court to make such a change. In general, you will have to show either that urgent circumstances exist necessitating a change of custody, or that the child is not faring well in his or her present environment over a significant period of time.

5. Be a Gracious Winner …Or Loser.

The biggest factor the court will consider in determining the custody arrangements for your child will be what arrangements are most in your child’s best interest.  If you are not satisfied with all of the circumstances, remember that these can always be taken back to court.  Do not ruin your future chances for custody or more importantly your relationship with your child because you are a bad winner or sore loser.