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Warm Weather & Cheating Go Together

Spring is here and Cheating is in the air… Or is it lust? As the temperature begins to rise, so does the number of cheating spouses. For many people Spring is a time to clean out our lives and begin fresh. It is a time to find love. For some who are already in relationships, however, this includes starting fresh with different people.

Not surprisingly, much research has been conducted to discover exactly why people stray during this time of year. Patrick Wanis, a relationship expert, stated, “Warmer weather has a huge impact on our hormones.” With nicer weather people are more open to going out, meeting new people, and trying new things. “It is the most sensual and erotic time of the year. We show more skin, we're emotionally more open, and there are many more social and vacation opportunities to be led astray,” Wanis continued.

According to the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, men are especially vulnerable to temptation with 50 to 60 percent of married men engaging in extramarital affairs. “By nature, men are stimulated visually,” Wanis said. “So of course, when summer rolls around more flesh is being flashed. Men also tend to have a lower value system than women and are better at separating sex and emotion.” Do not think that women are an exception to this extramarital phenomenon.According to the journal article, 45 to 55 percent of wives have found affection outside the marriage. As the weather gets nice, many husbands and wives take this time as an opportunity to go on separate vacations such as fishing trips, camping, or a get-together at a beach.

Ruth Houston, author of “Is He Cheating On You?” and founder of infidelityadvice.com found that in extramarital affairs, men are looking for fun, so they pick younger, less-serious woman and that women have a tendency to cheat with older, attractive, and wealthier men who can spoil and seduce them. Houston says that even the strongest relationships can fall prey to affairs. In many cases cheaters feel that their marriage is so stable that their spouse will never suspect that they are having a fling. Her research shows that two out of three extramarital affairs go undetected. The idea that these affairs are only ‘flings’ however is not necessarily accurate. “A lot of relationships are beyond repair as the cheater has had time to connect emotionally with their seasonal lover,” Houston says. If you suspect if something is wrong, follow your instinct. “Always go with your gut and your intuition,” says Wanis. “You know deep down when something isn't right, but many of us tend to go into denial.” Houston adds that suspicious partners should not approach their loved ones without solid proof. A private investigator can utilize many different methods to give you that proof whether it is through GPS, computer monitoring or video surveillance. When confronted most partners deny, deny, deny. So you must have proof to eliminate the denials and move your relationship forward in the direction you decide. “If you have evidence, you both need to sit down and discuss the situation.”